5 Easy Ways to Overcome Defeat When You Feel Like Quitting

In this article, I share with you my encounter with my worst defeat and 5 easy ways to overcome defeat when you feel like quitting.

My burnout experience at the age of 27 as a young entrepreneur who was setting the world on fire appeared to be at the time a terrible defeat. I crashed and burned so bad that I thought I never rise again from the ashes. I felt totally defeated!

The pain and agony of depression, anxiety and insomnia I experienced were something that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. How could I have gone from the happiest person I knew to the most miserable?

The thought of living the rest of my life in a lethargic state without any energy was enough to push me to the brink of suicide.

The effects of defeat can be deadly. I say that because the most common symptom of defeat is depression. Worse still is that the most severe symptom of depression is suicide.

When people feel they have no other way out, they simply give up. Without hope for a better future they chose the easy way out today.

I am grateful for a brother who encouraged me to hang in there and not give up. If he hadn’t, I’m not sure I’d be writing this 30 years later. Thirty years of depression-free living and giving myself to the Universe and my purpose.

The 5 lessons I learned that have helped me overcome defeat, discouragement and depression are not at all complicated or hard to do, but they could save your life or that of a loved one:

1. Tell yourself “This didn’t come to stay, it came to pass!Write it on sticky notes and post them everywhere. Place one on your mirror so that these are the first words you see every morning. Write these words in your journal. You must learn to encourage yourself, whether or not you feel like it. Do it and the feelings will come later on.

2. Find someone to share your feelings with who has gone through a similar experience. Only people who have been where you are can honestly say “I know where you are coming from.” As a rule, the rest of the free advice you will get from your well-meaning friends, family and associates is worth every penny you pay for it. Find a true encourager even if it’s online. I have coached people I have never met to step back from the brink of suicide.

3. Realize that everything happens for a reason. Constantly remind yourself as many times a day as you need to, “All things work out for my good!” Look for the good in every situation. The fact is: we don’t know if a failure is good or bad. Sometimes, missing a flight, which seems like an utter failure and disappointment at the time, can turn out to be a real blessing. Our perspective changes when we hear that the plane which we were supposed to be on, has crashed. It is at that moment that our disappointment turns into gratitude.

4. Learn to view failures as lessons. There are times what appears to be a defeat is really a setup for something much greater that God has in store for our lives. Closed doors can be a blessing. They keep us from getting stuck in something good and prevent us from discovering the best for our lives. Keep moving along the corridor of life. Keep trying doors. Stop trying to kick them down. Doors that don’t open may be locked for a reason.

5. Look up and look ahead. Stop beating yourself up! Don’t keep looking back, you’re not headed in that direction. Keep moving ahead with the belief and determination that the right doors will open at the right time. Sometimes the wilderness experience we are going through is simply preparing us for an incredible future ahead.

Are you are feeling defeated at the moment? I encourage you to share your feelings here in the comments so we can encourage each other.

Ben Kubassek is an #entrepreneur evangelist, #author and #business startup coach to young people in developing countries. He's on a mission to help people know, go and grow in their own businesses and put an end to poverty in their communities.

Ben Kubassek

Ben Kubassek is an #entrepreneur evangelist, #author and #business startup coach to young people in developing countries. He's on a mission to help people know, go and grow in their own businesses and put an end to poverty in their communities.

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  1. i always thought i would go far in life and these thoughts depress me when i compare my thoughts to my reality. i want to make my our way out of where i am and i hate working for other people.. it also seems risky to leave it all and enter an unknown territory.., i always give people the right advises for their businesses, but i have nowhere to implement them, once i remember i tried to open a business selling fast food, but that didnt go very far, i was betrayed by a friend and had to close down before i even saw any cent of profit and all that i had invested was lost more especially my courage to start again.. i know deep inside that if i get into business i will make it.. i will make my first million in 3 years i swear… i just have the touch but i have nowhere to make it work for myself… it works for others though and i like that it does, but when i go to sleep at night i wonder what i can venture in and wake up one day and leave my boss… somehow i know that it will come or i will go to it, but my confidence has taken dive since the restuarant didnt go so well.. it was not much but it was my first step in the entrepreneurial world and i know it was going to be successful , i spent my savings on that business and now i dont even have the money to save again.. but i hope and pray that God makes a way.., somehow i sense a lot of fear inside myself and i was never a fearful person, my responsibilities are tying me down to a salary and i am afraid to venture out again on what i dont have… i read about a woman in south africa who started her company fro. her personal credit card.. and another thought entered my mind… i asked myself seeing that nobody is going to make it rain money on my laps i should just take the same risk, but chicken little keeps telling me that the sky is falling… but i questioned myself, if i can risk buying a car on credit for such a lot of money, why cant i do the same on a business loan? i hate chicken little… and i continue to question….

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    Thank you sir for this, so much comfort as this statement is what exactly encouraged me today: Sometimes the wilderness experience we are going through is simply preparing us for an incredible future ahead.

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    I understand what you mean I guess I look at it like this, If you are doing sohinmetg you love (which you should be doing anyway) quitting will never be considered because you do what you do regardless of if you are getting paid. The whole idea is to try to build a business around doing what you love. My motto is That didn’t work, so try sohinmetg else to make what I am doing profitable, so I can do it for a lifetime I mean building a brand is sohinmetg I will always want to do so I am in it for life. Some people play basketball, some people like sewing, some people like feeding the homeless, and some love doing these things regardless of monetary compensation.. Why not attempt to build a business around sohinmetg you will never quit doing because you love it too much to quit.. MY 2 PENNIES.Love ya Rachel!Javaboi

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